OK! I have been away for a long time. I promise my family not to use Facebook and Instagram for a while, so I am jumping over here.
Wednesday, September 28, 2022
I have been a faithful spouse to my wife of 51 years. It has not always been an easy time. We have had our differences and our arguments, but we have also had had many wonderful times together.
Overall of those years, I have worked in fields where I have had a lot of female colleagues: Medical research, Medical illustration, Instructional design, Teaching, Organizational design, consulting, and art and illustration, all are full of female professionals. Over the years I have learned to appreciate the talents, skills, and leadership provided by my female colleagues. I have also developed many sincere and loving relationships with my female colleagues. Never has there been a romantic relationship but rather a deep understanding and feeling of companionship and love for so many of them, I can truthfully say that some of my relationships could very easily have slipped into illegitimate relationships, but I often struggled to keep the proper professional perspective, but in each case, I was able to keep the relationship proper.
In my last session with my therapist, we peeled back some of the issues that haunt me to this day. Why do I feel like an anachronism when it comes to my moral and ethical character? We dug a bit into my family relationships, my education, my religious upbringing, and my natural desires for love, affection, and sexual needs. I grew up in a loving and engaging family where the physical expression of love was almost non-existent. I never recall ever hugging or kissing anyone else in my family until very recent years. The only time that I told my mother that I loved her and that I hugged and lightly kissed her on the cheek was when she was on her death bed dying. I never told my dad that I loved him or ever gave him a hug like I do with my son John. On the other hand, When I married Carolyn Cantella and was around her family things were quite different. There were plenty of hugs and kisses and a physical show of love and caring. I blame a lot of it on the different family cultures. My two German grandmothers surely must have been rather stodgy from what I can gather from the few descriptions that I got from my parents surely set the stage. The few old photos seem to depict such characters. Can't tell much about my grandfathers. I never knew my maternal grandfather Kennedy from Ireland. My fraternal grandfather, I did have an afternoon with him when he was 95 and we talked at length about my great grandfather and his times on the Chisholm trail when I was in high school. Carolyn's family was of French Acadian Landry stock (my MIL) and Sicilian stock (My FIL). They were not at all stodgy from my perspective. This difference in family cultures would cause me considerable distress in the early years of our marriage and would ultimately result in my estrangement from my family in my middle age.
Back to my upbringing and why I feel like an anachronism.
I was brought up in a Catholic family. My mom, a Kennedy, made sure that I went to Mass and attended Catholic schools (St Pius School in Pasadena 1st grade, St Mary school in Houston (grade 2-8), and St. Thomas HS, Houston (Grade 9-12). So I had a solid grounding in Catholic education and doctrine. Note that St. Thomas was all male, so I no longer had girls around me in the classroom, like I did in grade school. I was an altar boy, as well, through the 6-8 grades and at St. Thomas, as well. The Dominican nuns kept me in line and indoctrinated us.
In College I went to the A&M College of Texas and was in the Corps Of Cadets for two years, So I had no women classmates for five of my six years in college. I went to the University of Texas in my fifth year to get a degree in Architectural Studies, so that was the first time to have been in a classroom with women in 8 years. All of those years in college I was active in the Neumann Club (a Catholic-oriented extracurricular organization, and went to Mass every Sunday, and would often step up as altar boy. I became a leader in the clubs both at A&M and at UT, and even UH and Rice during the summers.
At TAMU I was early on introduced to Lawrance Sullivan Ross. an icon in the history of the university. On his monument in front of the Academic building, his epitaph read "Soldier, Statesman, and Knightly Gentleman" That statement would drive my character for the rest of my life. I became a soldier (not much of one), I was never a real statesman (I was elected to various campus positions, to a block grant commissioner position in the city of Houston, to a school board vice president, and a few other quite minor positions, and I tried to be a Knightly Gentleman. That last goal is the one that has me feeling like an anachronism in a world where women are treated like second-class citizens and objects to conquer and abuse, etc.
In my therapy sessions with a couple of different therapists, one a male and the other a female, that character trait came out loud and clear. My therapists have commented on that character, but I still feel so out of place in this world, but I like being out of place! To me women are special creatures to be honored, blessed, cared for, loved, and guarded. I just became a Knights of Columbus member and am currently reviewing a series of blogs on the role of men in the Church and the world and what I am seeing so far is right on. I am also in a Wednesday morning breakfast group called "This Man is You," a group trying to create men for leadership roles in the church, the community, and the family. I think that I am finding a lot of support in these two groups
Saturday, October 9, 2021
welcome back to my blog, "Pintail Flights"
It has been over 7 years since I have posted on this blog. A lot has happened since my last entry, so let's catch up!!!
I have been back in Houston since 2011 - some 10 years!!!! : Let me give you a quick summary of the past 10 years!!
OMG, a lot has happened. I find myself now an Octogenarian!! I turned 80 on August 4, 2021!!!! I never thought that I would make it this far!
Since my last entry, I have left my contract job with Aramco. I spent four months in Mexico in San Miguel de Allende to fulfill my time out of the country for foreign tax exclusion in 2010. It was a wonderful time for me, but for Carolyn, it must have been hard since she had to return to Houston to take care of business at home and then she returned to enjoy the Christmas season.
Once back home in Houston Carolyn and I drove the F-150 to Austin, TX to see our new granddaughter, Brooklyn Hall, and then on to Saratoga, CA to see our other new granddaughter, Jolene Sicore!! It was a long but enjoyable drive across the Southwest to San Diego and up Highway 1 along Big Sur to Santa Cruz and finally into Saratoga.
Over the next few years we made several trips back out to visit our daughter's family in California. These trips were by plane. We went out to see our last born grandchild, Clyde, when they were living in Los Gatos. He was a beautiful infant, but he soon begin to exhibit seisures and was diagnosed with a rare form of malformation of the brain tissue that has left him as a bedridden child requiring constant care and love.
Once I was back home I picked up a consulting gig with John Wilson Associates working on a BP project for the Thunderhorse project designing and teaching a course on dropped objects for crew on the rig. I made monthly trips to Houma, LA to teach the large group of crew and visitors to that massive offshore rig. As I was working the Thunderhorse project I picked up another gig with Shell Oil Company at the Bellaire Technology Center working with Stu Furgang, a former manager for a previous gig with ExxonMobil, in the Shell Upstream Learning where I designed and developed numerous engineering and Geoscience courses. I was later pulled into the Shell Global Learning Design Team to work on the Shell Project Academy and spent a deal of time going back and forth to The Hague, Netherlands. This Shell gig lasted three years before the funding dried up and I was left looking for another consulting gig.
Within a month of leaving Shell, my old Exxon colleague, Brian Nicholson, pulled me into a gig with BP working through Intellinex/Xerox functioning as the project manger for BP Refining Academy and later as the US learning lead for the Chili Programme out of the London Offices. This gig was a huge global change management project affecting all subsurface activities. The projects lasted four years.
That took me into 2016. I had been visiting artists studios in The Sawyer Yards on 2nd Saturday Open Studios for a number of years. With no consulting gig in hand, I decided to get a studio in the newest building in the Sawyer Yards Creative Campus - The Silos, and give my art career a full time effort. I am now enjoying the community of creative individuals less than a mile from my house. I have become a fixture in the community for five years now. I do miss my consulting gigs, but my caregiving demands for Carolyn, now in late stage Dementia/Alzhiemers, make gig work and the travel involved not an option for me. I suppose that I could work virtually. I did work virtually for BP long before the Pandemic forced the workforce to do so.
Ok, so now your are more or less up to date with my professional life. I will continue this blog as I move forward. It will explore facets of my life and the world. I will try to keep it up to date and on target to help others.
Today I will be at my studio for the October 2nd Saturday Open Studios. If you can make it please visit me at studio #227 in The Silos, 1502 Sawyer Street, Houston, TX77007
Cheers,
Richard
Wednesday, March 11, 2015
Paragraphs On Padre Boulevard More than a BookstoreR
Sam Listi, my husband's friend since St. Thomas High School, suggested that Richard should have a book signing in South Padre. We are going down again, soon. Would love to meet you!
Carolyn Hall
rshall1@swbell.net
519 Bayland Avenue
Houston, TX 77009
Monday, September 30, 2013
Finally, after many years of effort, I have received a shipment of my book on Texas Lighthouses today!! Sometimes, I wondered if I would ever finish it, but perseverance pays out in the long run. I will post details soon, but for now I going to tip a glass of champagne in celebration and breath a long breath of relief.
Sunday, September 29, 2013
Richard
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Tuesday at the Tiangus

Monday, December 6, 2010
A fun day

Sunday, December 5, 2010
The First Week of December in SMA
Here are the other two studies that I did not attach to the last post. These are scenes along the highway in Michoiacan as I remember them. Lots of imagery like this is in my memory bank. I have the colors a bit too green for this time of year. Any finished painting will have a lot more yellow ochres.A birding note: while I was in the Zihua area the one bird that I did not see was the common house sparrow!! I have seen that bird everyplace else that I have gone in this world, but for some reason it was absent there.
At any rate, life is good. Am in a really nice apartment in Colonia San Antonio, with a great view if the western half of SMA.
Lots of pigeons in this part of town. Someone must have a pigeon coop around here or otherwise encourage those darned birds. They do get rather nervous when a raptor is working the area. Makes me think of the homing pigeons back home that they sell and race out of Quality Feed Store in our neighborhood. There is a small group of Homer enthusiasts in the Houston area and they race their birds almost every weekend. They will take them out for 50 to 175 mile races. It is amazing how fast those birds return home (of course some don't make it back - killed enroute or enticed into the feral pigeon population). It was a big sport (gambling) back in the old countries of Europe not too many years ago - still is. There are other breeds of pigeons, just like chickens, that are bred for show (fantails for example) or meat (white kings, for example). As a yoiung teenager, Ray Loomis (married to Pamela Woods Loomis, twin sister of Cynthia Woods Mitchell) built large pigeon coops or cages for each of us boys in the neighborhood and gave each of us a breeding pair and a 50# bag of feed, with the intent that we would raise squabs for the restaurant market, thereby learning business skills and keeping us occupied with worthwhile activities. I was different, as I wanted to raise quail and pheasant, so I was provided with a long run pen for my birds. I had bob white quail and silver pheasants. The project did not keep us occupied for very long, unfortunately. We all lost interest when we realized how long it would take to get any payout. It was a neat idea, though, and it did teach us a lot.

Saturday, December 4, 2010
More Zihua and Michoaican studies


Wednesday, November 24, 2010




Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Monday, November 22, 2010
Away for Thanksgiving





Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Consulting work: ups and downs
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Exciting sunsets on the rooftop terrace.
I find the rooftop terrace of Maricela's Guest House such a great place to work on my artwork. From the terrace I have a wonderful view of San Miguel de Allende. I am in a place very close to the center of town on the fourth floor, so the panorama is 360 degrees. The Parroquia (main church in town) is about two blocks north. East is up and over a small mountain covered with centuries old homes of Spanish architecture. South looks over a similar array of structures. Finally, west is the view out into the valley and in the distance are two mountain ranges. That is where the most beautiful sunsets occur (obviously). Last night was one of those special times. Maybe it was because it was the Dia de los Muertos, and all the deceased were kicking up dust into the clouds as they came to the dinners placed out for them in almost every household and business in town. Whatever, the sky evolved into absolutely the best sunset that I have experienced here. As if the sunset itself was not enough, the birds, all kinds of them, I think, realized that it was the Day of the Dead and they needed to hurry home to greet their dead relatives, for out of the grey of the high sky finches dropped almost directly at me in quick flitty flight to land inches and feet away from me in the big hackberry tree in the yard nextdoor (realize that I am positioned almost in the canopy of that tree - not ground level). I would spot a tiny image in the grey sky and it would quickly grow in size and appear to be headed right for me and at the very last minute it would seem to dodge me to land in the dark understory of the leaves of that hackberry - dozens and dozens of them - all talking to each other, excited to chat with their bedmates about the great times they had that day in the grass fields of the hillsides and valleys around SMA. There was flight after flight of egrets (mostly cattle egrets) heading from the day of feeding in the farmlands to their roost on the large presa, or lake, just out of view from the terrace. Then too, were the 5 varieties of flycatchers active in this immediate couple of blocks that flitted around chasing each other and claiming the best spot to perch and scan the darkening sky for the influx of small flying insects that began to emerge as the day was closing down. Thier characteristic flight up into the apparent empty sky a few yards from their perch would surely yield them the rewards of some small morsel - I could never see the small morsels that they were after. Then there was the quick smooth flight of a bat falcon right in front of me a few yards away as he headed for the bluffs and the bats that hang around there feasting on the beatles that use the thermals rolling up the bluffs of the mountain carry them into the valley to feast on the crops there.
As the sun was gliding behind those distant moiuntains flight after flight of white-winged doves coming in from all directions headed, bullet-like, to a group of trees in Parque Juarez a few blocks from my perch, and over to the north was a flight of white-faced ibis headed, I am sure, for the same roost as the egrets out someplace on the Presa.
Cowbirds and grackles, swallows and hummingbirds, feral pigeons and house sparrows - so many birds were, for some reason, more evident to me those few precious moments then any evening that I have spent in that wonderful place that I call my retreat - the rooftop terrace of Maricela's Guest House - was it the physical manifestation of the many souls coming home for their annual return home to the feasts that have been placed for them by their living loved ones. It was the Dia de los Muertos (Day of the Dead) all over Mexico.
How I wish that I could have shared that wonderful experince with my birding compadres - my loved ones - my family - God has been truely good to me!
Good night and love to each and everyone who reads this post!
Sunday, October 31, 2010
San Miguel de Allende, GTO, Mexico
Friday, October 15, 2010
After a long time away
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Heading home
My plane leaves out of Bahrain at 11:20 tonight and I stil have a lot of things to attend to, so goodbye for now.
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Gillian's home








